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Cake day: June 22nd, 2023

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  • First off, I’m am not seeing really great communication skills coming from your end in your story here.

    he keeps insinuating there is something wrong with me just because I don’t ask him about his private life

    This is predicting. Or do you actually know he thinks this? The use of ‘insinuating’ sounds like you’re filling in a lot of blank space with your own narrative. Unless he came out and actually said this, private information isn’t necessarily an unspoken agreed upon trade. And if it was that would be a fault on his side.

    And Just to get it out of the way: Introvert isn’t where you don’t want to socialize. It’s just a personality trait in how you recharge with or without socializing. Typical introvert would not avoid socializing altogether. They’d socialize and then excuse themselves for a time being. This is of course with healthy preferences of who to socialize with like any average person could have and that is perfectly fine but that isn’t a trait of what makes a person introvert or extrovert. That’s just having standards.

    Either way, this just sounds like you have made a choice that this person isn’t for you and you have some unspoken boundaries and expect someone to know your boundaries without telling them. Even if you think you are being clear with social queues this might be a case of miscommunication of what a social queue is for you and what he reads communication(possible) . But I wouldn’t leave that to assumption.

    People aren’t mind readers so of it is bothering you this much you could tell him like several others are suggesting.

    after that if he doesn’t let up, see HR as that would be harassment at that point.

















  • You know how you fill in security questions or have a certain knowledge about yourself that other people trust only you to answer to in order to permit you access to your own information online such as accounts?

    Well a hacker can use that shit and then you have a long road to convince anyone who ever lost trust in you because of that that you have been hacked.

    Also you want to protect the people on your contact list if you want to keep their trust.

    You shouldn’t even give your phone number out. That’s linked to accounts.