Recently our 17-year-old daughter introduced her boyfriend to us over dinner. He came with another girl which we initially thought was a common friend. No, that was actually his other girlfriend. Super nice girl, very pretty. That dinner was awkward to say the least. My husband already doesn’t like him due to this whole poly thing. I just don’t understand how our daughter could be okay with this, no matter how good the guy may be.
I’d like to pretend I’d be fine with it, but as a parent such a situation fills me with dread. Ultimately, if they’re happy that’s what matters, and if it’s a mistake all you can do is allow them to (safely) make those mistakes.
Assuming you’re American, the bit that worries me a little is consent. If I were to hazard a guess, if you’re in a poly relationship at 17, you’re probably also having sex. How old is the boyfriend? How do they all know each other? Are there any safeguarding issues at play here?