• Aksamit@slrpnk.net
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    5 days ago

    If your country is banning abortion and restricting contraceptives, it’s not transphobic to avoid sex and intimate relationships with folk who could impregnate you.

    Please just take a moment to think it through.

    If you like somebody with opposed genitalia to yours and your country has banned abortion and restricted contraception- it is really not respectful (or sane!) to put one of your lives on the line for PiV sex with them.

    And just so we are completely clear about this: Trans men are men and trans women are women. Everyone should get to decide for themselves who they do and do not sleep with, and they should respect their potential partners wishes either way.

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      5 days ago

      it’s not transphobic to avoid sex

      Who the fuck ever claimed that?
      Talk about a straw man argument.

    • itslilith@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      5 days ago

      Okay, I hope you understand why this is wrong to say, right?

      • not all intimate relationships involve sex, but even if
      • many trans women are sterile. be it from orchiectomy or full-on bottom surgery, but even if not
      • many (if not most) trans women are uninterested in or even repulsed to be the penetrating partner during sex, if they are even capable of it

      There is a definitive point to be made to avoid penis-in-vagina sex to protect oneself. There is also a certain lysistratite point to denying men, who as a group are predominantly responsible for denying women bodily and social autonomy including reproductive and contraceptive rights, the pleasure of a relationship or sex in general.

      But the only reason I see why lesbian relationships, and that includes trans women, should be under scrutiny as well, is bigotry.