Background:

I’m in my 40s and I’ve always sort of beaten myself up over not being an avid reader. I go through phases where I read a bunch, sometimes I’ll finish a book in a months time, sometimes start a book and forget it, sometimes it seems like I go literally years without really getting into any book at all. But I still accumulate them.

Because of how important reading is and now I “fail” to prioritize it, I’ve always found myself in a poor relationship with reading. I feel this artificial pressure to read things that are only important and will somehow make me more useful. I feel this artificial pressure to start one book and read it to the end. I feel this artificial pressure to become a changed person by fully investing every bit of info from every book.

I’ve been learning that these pressures are untenable.

I’ve also noticed that I partake in all kinds of things without the same expectations: tv shows, games, podcasts, media and news outlets, social media, etc.

Right now I have 6 books that I am actively reading, and I am trying to remember that it’s for enjoyment and not some high level goal. Someone told me if I read 10 pages a day I would finish about 10 books a year. I found this so encouraging.

Taking the pressure off of reading has really helped me get more productive at reading, and I think it will help me convert my habit into a truly fruitful one.

So now I ask you:

  • What are your reading habits like?
  • What do you like to read?
  • What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it?
  • Have you made any changes, positive or negative, to your reading habits?
  • What else?
  • PonyOfWar@pawb.social
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    24
    ·
    4 days ago

    I read books for personal enjoyment, basically never for learning or self-improvement or anything like that. I only ever read one book at a time and mostly in the evening before going to sleep.

    I’m in my early thirties. My reading speed varies quite a lot based on the book and my mood, but I’ve definitely noticed that I’ve become “worse” at reading in recent years. Too many digital distractions I guess. That said, if I do manage to read for 2 hours before going to sleep, I sleep so much better than if I watch a movie or doomscroll on Lemmy or whatever.

    I mostly read sci-fi and fantasy, sometimes historical novels. I think this year I’ve finished 4 books so far, and dropped one quarter-way through. There were definitely years where I’ve managed way more.

    • kratoz29@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      4
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      4 days ago

      if I watch a movie or doomscroll on Lemmy

      Are you telling me we really made Lemmy that good to be as good bad as Reddit? 🤯

  • QDgwZjQYdfbnMdMNQ@lemmy.cafe
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    5
    ·
    4 days ago

    I tend to go through phases in which whenever I find a bunch of books I’m really interested in, I’ll read a ton. But, once I finish those, I’ll read less for a while. I think my top speed if I’m really invested in what I’m reading is around 800 pages a day, but I never sustain that for long because I run out of book.

    I pretty much exclusively read fantasy, with a focus on books with hard magic systems, progression elements, and/or some sort of cultivation (which itself is a progression element).

    When I was a kid, I struggled with reading for years because I wasn’t interested in anything I read at school. I only really started reading a ton when I found books I was interested in (fantasy), which in turn made me a lot better at reading from all the practice.

    Somewhat more recently, I’ve started reading webnovels in between traditionally published books, which is nice because you get a continuous drip of content. I also generally just read on my phone, as it’s very convenient to pop out a book wherever I am. I like physical books too, but I don’t tend to get through them as fast because I can’t fit them in my pocket and take them with me everywhere.

    My experience is that if you want to develop a habit of reading a lot, you should focus on finding something you enjoy, as it’s a lot easier to make a habit of doing something you like than something you don’t like.

    • heatofignition@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      3 days ago

      You just described my reading habits pretty precisely…quick, give me a new series to read that fits those descriptions

  • iii@mander.xyz
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    16
    ·
    4 days ago

    I finish maybe 5 books a year. The library makes it so there’s a “deadline”, that helps.

    I also don’t mind picking up a book, and returning it after a few chapters if I realise I don’t like it.

    It shouldn’t feel like a chore.

      • skulblaka@sh.itjust.works
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        4 days ago

        I use my local library from my phone with the Libby app. I don’t know if this benefits them as much as going there in person does. I did go there to get a library card though, you need one to sign up in the app.

        But they have a great catalog of ebooks that I can borrow from, I’ve read the bulk of The Dresden Files that way recently and I’m about to finish it if the last two books ever come off reservation.

  • FourPacketsOfPeanuts@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    13
    ·
    edit-2
    4 days ago

    For me getting an alarm clock made a difference. Because that nullified my brains weak excuse that I needed my phone by my bed “for an alarm”. No I didn’t. People have woken up perfectly reliably for years before smartphones. So I got an alarm clock. And that made it easier to turn going to bed into calm reading time instead of doom scrolling (by leaving my phone charging in other room). And that’s made a big difference, not only to quality of reading but also general mood.

    • SassyRamen@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      5
      ·
      4 days ago

      Wow! That’s it, tomorrow I’m buying an alarm clock! Reading your comment made me realize how unhealthy it is to doom scroll myself to sleep! Thanks for the wake up!

      • andyortlieb@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        4 days ago

        Lately I have been trying to notice my doom scrolling actually using it as a cue to convert that energy into reading something I’m interested in.

        I’m trying to quit scrolling like I quit smoking decades ago: with intentional anger for being controlled and then redirection.

    • nondescripthandle@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      4 days ago

      I still use my phone for an alarm but it’s always far away from my bed because if I can reach my alarm without having to stand up im liable to keep sleeping.

  • Mr_Blott@feddit.uk
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    6
    ·
    4 days ago

    I love books

    My biggest recommendation is to avoid asking for recommendations online, particularly in reading - centric communities.

    People love to pretend their favourite books are classical just through sheer pretentiousness

    The most genuine people you’ll find in life are the ones that are perfectly happy to admit they fucking love a trashy thriller

  • Mister Neon@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    11
    ·
    edit-2
    4 days ago
    1. My reading habits are like everyone of my hobbies, I’m obsessed for a week then move on to a new pursuit then come back to reading several months later.
    2. I read text books about Aztec history.
    3. I’m a year away from 40 and I’m coming to terms with being alone for the rest of my life (which is exactly the same leading up to this point).
    4. I bought a book stand I can adjust and wheel around.
    5. Stop caring what other people think and just read when you feel like it. You’re overthinking this.
  • KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    6
    ·
    edit-2
    4 days ago

    I read my first book in 11 years, I finished it 2 weeks ago. It’s The Expanse. I loved the series and someone gifted me the first book.

    My trick? I commute by train and have my book with me everywhere I go. If there’s waiting to be done, there’s reading time.

  • socsa@piefed.social
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    7
    ·
    4 days ago

    I would read like 60 or 70 books a year as a kid. I have the BOOK IT records to prove it. These days it’s like 10. I don’t think there is any shame in not reading per-se as long as you are pursuing other intellectual activities or hobbies.

    I think people put too much emphasis on reading as some idealized time sink. There are lots of productive ways to spend free time and reading is one of them. When you are a kid you have fewer options but as an adult cooking or wood working or gardening can be a fine form of intellectual stimulation.

    • MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      4 days ago

      One counterpoint I would have to those other hobbies (I enjoy all of them, so no disrespect to them or practitioners of them) is they don’t expose a person to new ideas as easily. Reading is great for getting a potential new perspective on something, or just absorbing new ideas in general.

      You can always combine both by reading up on another hobby you have, best of both worlds so to speak.

  • Donebrach@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    3
    ·
    4 days ago

    I don’t read much for entertainment. Never have. The focus on “reading is super important” is honestly pretty stupid in my opinion. 99% of the shit people are reading is probably trashier than any other form of entertainment but people act like its a mark of a superior intellect because they are flipping through pages of a book.

    I also find the physical act of reading a book to be incredibly distracting from consuming the information therein. I read much more efficiently and enjoyably using digital platforms than I ever did with printed media. I’m in my mid 30’s and probably an outlier for my age group in regards to how I feel about books.

    Its just another form of entertainment, should not be put on a pedestal, and is really just as valid (or invalid) as any other form of entertainment—if you don’t find yourself drawn to it then don’t beat yourself up about it. No one is going around belittling people for not watching enough movies during a given annum; why treat reading a book like it’s some great and noble act?

    • dingus@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      2 days ago

      I’m with you on that. I’ve never really understood why books are supposed to be seen as somehow the superior and more intelligent medium.

      Why do people praise books as some weird superiority over other media? Is it literally just because they are older? There are deep, thought provoking, intelligent books, sure, but there are also plenty of brainrot books. The same can honestly be said for things like movies and TV shows and podcasts/radio shows.

      What gives?

      • Donebrach@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        2 days ago

        Sing it! I read a lot—webcomics, manga, ebooks, video game text boxes, subtitles, internet content in general. Just not _ printed physical books_ which seems to be 90% of people’s definition of reading.

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️@yiffit.net
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    5
    ·
    edit-2
    4 days ago

    I will be 40 in February. I read daily. But what I read daily is this shit. Posts and comments. Memes and news articles. Maybe someone’s fanfic on Tumblr.

    Been getting into furry focused visual novels after getting bored and checking out Adastra since I had heard of it years ago and never actually played it, and I just haven’t been able to get enough of Howlie’s work since (finish The Smoke Room so you can get back on Khemia, please! 😩)

    I like sci-fi and romance. Adastra was both and has been the best fucking thing I’ve ever read.

    I haven’t read an honest to God book since Ready Player One initially came out.

  • Kusimulkku@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    3
    ·
    4 days ago

    I just read because I enjoy it. Around 20-30 per year. This year it’s looking out to be around 25. I wouldn’t read if I didn’t like doing it. I don’t think it makes much sense to force yourself into it. Sometimes I read historical stuff but usually it’s fiction of some sort. Historical fiction, fantasy, scifi. I’m a student so I suppose that helps.

    What helped me read more was getting an e-reader. It’s just so much more pleasant than regular books and the selection is much larger.

  • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    6
    ·
    4 days ago

    To preface, you are not a worse person if you don’t like to read. There’s so many different ways to learn or grow nowadays, you don’t need to force yourself to do it through a medium you don’t enjoy.

    That said, I’m a person who DOES enjoy reading, but struggles to do it anyway for some reason. If that’s you as well, I get you. And I’d say it’s worth it.

    In general, figuring out WHY you want to read will impact how to best work it into your life. Is it for entertainment, mindfulness, to get a better attention span, to chill out, etc. I do it for calming down mixed with enjoyment, and that impacts how I work it into my day.

    What helped me was working it into my routine. I read at night. I don’t have a set schedule, I teach night school some nights, and I’m working on a masters thesis.

    My fixed point every day: some time when I feel ready (a fixed time would stress me out), I turn off my laptop, text my partner good night, and put my phone away. I get ready for bed. What follows is designated reading time. I read for as long as I enjoy it, am not too tired, and can still focus. If I’m not getting tired, I’ll dim the lights at some point. Sometimes, I read one page, sometimes 50. If you force it, it won’t be enjoyable.

    I also always carry the book and try to read while I’m on the tram or train. Especially for somewhat longer journeys, which I take somewhat regularly, I get a lot of chill reading done like that. But that’s pretty specific to my situation as I’m a public transport commuter and have a partner that lives 4 train hours away.

    • andyortlieb@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      4 days ago

      I have, on a few occasions, rebooted my reading habit from traveling by airplane.

      I have found that if I do everything I can to feel as good as possible before a flight, and bring a book in my carry on, it’s one of the rare situations that there is nothing pulling me away from reading. I went somewhere for work last month and I finished 2 books on that trip. That made me really happy and motivated to keep it alive.

  • sntx@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    4
    ·
    4 days ago

    What are your reading habits like?

    When I pick up a book I typically get hooked after ten to fifteen pages and then complete it on the same day (think ~100s of pages in hours, ~1000s pages in days). This often results in me semi-self-destructively finishing the book and then not touching a book for at least a few days as I have to deal with the things I neglected while reading.

    What do you like to read?

    Mostly Novels

    What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it?

    Have you made any changes, positive or negative, to your reading habits?

    I went from physical books to reading a lot on my phone. This allows me to read easily and blend in better while in public. It comes with the advantage that I break up big monolouthic reading sessions with small micro breaks.

    What else?

    Even though it’s somewhat obvious: I also like to get books that aren’t in my native tongue, I find that reading teaches you a lot about the application of a language.

  • Corr@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    2
    ·
    4 days ago
    • What are your reading habits like? I try to read at a minimum a chapter a night. That said I read a lot thanks to my commute to and from work 3x per week. I seem to read about a book a week. I do it for pleasure and I’ve gotten better about not finishing books. Though I will probably finish a book even I’m not loving it. It has to be bad for me to not finish.
      In being an avid reader I think it’s important and valuable in reading some stuff that isn’t as fun (mostly classics). That said I think people who don’t read much can steer clear easily. It’s a hobby and do whatever you like doing the most.

    • What do you like to read? Mostly fantasy or SciFi. Ive been branching out into more traditional fiction genres and I’ll read some historical things from time to time. I’m not tied down to a genre but I find poorly written fantasy can get carried by cool concepts or world building.

    • What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it? I just started my career and I’ve been reading all my life. My mum made sure I would read since I was quite young and I liked it. I’ve had ups and downs ans I definitely read more now than I did in high school and university thanks to my long commute.

    • What else? I’ll reiterate, do what you like even if it is to not read. Live life your way. That said, if you wanna get into reading, setting yourself a page or chapter target daily is a good place to start. Don’t worry about how many books you read in a period. Sit back and find enjoyment in what you are reading or did read, not stress in what you didn’t read.

    I’ll throw you a book recommendation because it’s always gotten me out of a reading slump: the Scorpio races by Maggie stiefvater. It’s targeted at younger folks but I think it’s an extremely enjoyable read still and has plenty to Enjoy for anyone