I agree with you.

I think argueing if adhd might be over or under diagnosed makes adulds feel even more ashamed.

I also don’t like blaming self diagnosis. Women having a hard time finding professionell help, cause they never fit into stereotypical adhd behaivor. They seen as overreacting and emotional.

Yes. I search a good figdet toy, but all i find online is either shitty or mega expensiv. There is like no way of finding these things in local stores.

I add: reading the rulebooks/ description of the ttrpg world. The rules are dry to read and the flauvor is often vague. Often i read and can’t remember the stuff seconds later 😆

What is also boring af are discussions with players, who are no historians, but say “this fantasy setting is sooo authentic middle age!”.

I knew my gender identity was a lie

18€ a month, cause in germany we have the gez gebühren to keep journalism in good quality

You have totaly a point there.

I am working in cultural heritage, so creating bounds that last over jobs is crucial. Who are you on good terms with? Who has a strong opinion on topic x? Who could help you with that non profit project? Who can you take seriosly and who is a scammer?

Working with these kind of people can be so amazing.

But cultural heritage is passion driven, a lot of ways to burn out in that feld or do unpaid work. The silent war against big companies is hard.

One point to keep in mind: a lot of people are not educated to know these kind of things. In my country we tell our kids to function and blame them when they don’t function. It set an impossible high standart on very young people. But it is a relique from germanys problematic past, where people where only seen as Instruments.

I like to read neurodivergent content, because it gives me a much better insight in how the brain works. The content does not judge you and it does not blame you. This is appealing to people, who only start to realize how horrible the’ve been raised.

I would argue to work together to chance a system, that does not support human as diverse as they are.

I might understand how you feel. Opening up is a good first step. But after that? I don’t know. What steps to take and how long your path will be… no one knows.

Whenever anxiety tries to take controll of me… whenever i am angry at my own progress, i think about a little story:

A man takes a morning-walk on the beach. During the night there was a terrible storm, spreading tousands of seastars over the sand. He sees a woman trying to bring the seastars back to the water.

He walk up to her and asks: “why are you even doing this? You will just save a few, but the majority will die when the sun rises.”

She bend down to pick one seastar up and throws it into the ocean. “Maybe. But this one i have saved.”

Changing is hard and often feels pointless. The only thing we can do is doing things step by step.

Thank you 🥰

When it comes to japanese food, Düsseldorf is really great. Cause i studied there i know some good Restaurants and supermarkets 😆 but i take recomondations all around nrw.

i really want to taste spicy indian food or try other asian food, that is not so common here 🤔

My best friend visited south korea a few years ago. She never liked spicy food, but said it was so good there, she now likes this stuff.

Mindwandering while conversation/ sex was always annoying to me. I never understood why i am doing this and how to turn it off, cause “everyone else seems to get it right” and they made me feel bad for it.

It is importaint to talk about these stuff and reach out to people, who feel the same way.

I wanna eat the real spicy food! In germany everything is watered down so n00bs can eat it🥲

Sorry but it was never about OUR abilility in the firts place.

In my country exams are old, outdated and often way to hard. In my country all classes are outdated and way to hard. It often feels that we are stucked in the middle of the 20th century.

You have no change when you have a disability. When you have kids, parents to take care of. Or hell: you have to work, cause you can’t effort university otherwise.

So i can totaly understand why students feel the need to use AI to survive that torture. I don’t feel sorry for an outdated university system.

When it is about OUR abilility, then create a System that is for students and their needs.

Yeees

That woman, queer folk and PoC want too much space in this world.

That there are no obsticals for those groups, they just made them up.

I am not activly thinking that. But everytime i wish to speak my mind i am still asking myself “should i say something? Am i qualifyed enough? Maybe i get called out for being stupid 🥲”

I… dunno.

My ex ignored me for like two weeks and had become closed of. He reinsured me, that everything was fine when i asked him. But the next time he visted me, he said that he wanted to break up, saying he made up his mind two weeks earlier. But i dunno his reason for it.

The break up was okay. I though about it myself, cause he treated me bad the whole 5 month we were together: he talked bad about my interessets and hobbys. He overstepped my bounderies. And everytime, i made him aware of that, he was like “you didn’t make that clear enough”. He made me push my bounderies.

Sadly, i allowed this kind of behaivor back than. I was used to it. During that time i did not know about adhd. I always acted weird as a woman and felt bad for not fitting in. I acted impulsive and had mood swings. I wanted someone to love me, accept me. So i excused these behaivors.

No. I did not allowed that behaivor. But he made me feel like i was crazy when i wanted to talk about how i felt.

Now i have more selfesteem, i am weird and loud and full of my ideas. I am in a beatiful relationship, i am loved and accepted as who i am. I But of course that expierence still hunts me. It still hurts.

You are right. I want to add some historical perspective as well (but sorry i am no englisch naitive):

Marriage is importaint for a society who has land and money to own. To give it to the next generation, your kind. Marriage wasn’t that of a deal until martin luther, who declared it as a holy union between two people.

Every republican tries to argue with Religion, but they don’t know where these stuff came from. They don’t care, cause if they unreavel it, they would see it’s all constructed.

All of history woman worked in all kind of jobs. There never was a big issue about that. But the industrial Revolution chanced that. Since than rich people tried to structure workplaces, tried to increase their money. While making a huge impact on societys structures. Woman became unpaid housewifes. Put into care work. City Infrastructur, healthcare is for men, so they can work more and better. So their boss can make more money.

It is scary. So scary. And frustrating. But it is importaint to deconstruct what conservatives are saying. They try to argue with Tradition or science. But we felt for it over the decades. We made fun of feminism, queer folk, vegans or PoC. Or disabelt people. We turned on each other.

Hej, there

I can understand your frustration. Right now it feels that we small people can’t do anything to do good in the world. There are greedy capitalist everywhere. It is nearly impossible to understand what damage ones desicion could make. If our desicions even could make a difference.

But the thing is, you can’t overlook everything. It’s a gouverments job to keep an eye over Corporations.

But that doesn’t mean, that you can’t do anything. You can search for Informations and make yourself aware of those topics. You can support workers and strikes. You could limit yourself on what stuff you are comsuming.

You don’t have to boycott every major company and every Product. You just could make a list about everything you really need and what you are really looking forward to. So you can balance your need for morality and fun.

You will find a way that’s suits you. Don’t worry

I agree with you 😊

Even tho i studied history, it took long to find topics like disability history, gender studies, science studies and… everything PoC are doing. Established Professionals downplayed all of these as not relevant. Not scientific enough. As a young professionell, you don’t want to ruin your reputation, so you don’t engage with that.

In my country you are told, not to drift away from society. Not to built up your own ‘reality’, cause you read… a feministic book.

These gashlight tactics had keep me from enganging with topics and communitys, which are interessting for me. I did not want to be outcasted. But now i feel more confidend.

I want to dive into the neurodiverse community, cause it is such a new perspective in dealing with ones own life. Much more empowering! Much more brave. Learning to live with stuff like high sensitivity, instead of forcing myself to overcome it. It’s changing how i fre myself.

And yeah: how people talk to each all over the world has changed. To devide us is an easy way to controll us. 10 years ago you couldn’t say that out loud (ya soundes paranoid) but since the facebook papers it has become more much more clearer. It’s a tool to undermine democraty. And a lot of people are stepping in that trap.

What a beatiful, beatiful coincidence! Hello, fellow ace! 😊

You are damn right! We need more diversity, more voices like ours. To shape the psychology-landscape and to help people find acceptance/validation. Most of all, we need to talk. Openly, kindly, caring.

In my country, every group of people is gossip about each other. Stereotypes, prejudice… it was always frustrating dealing with that. Not other people are destroing our way of life, but we are. With the hate we uphold.

The rising right wing movement is pretty scary. I am worried about the future of my country, the Internet itself. But the queer community will always find a way.