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Cake day: June 2nd, 2023

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  • I’m pretty sure I’ve seen bigger! I’m okay with them usually, but they can make you uneasy. I had one living under my car bonnet for about a month in one occasion, the guy would come out at dusk and scare the shit out of me while driving. He would run all over the outside of the car and not fall, which is remarkable considering I did up to 70kms ph.



  • I would go to HR since this sounds like covert harassment to me. Don’t think it’s ridiculous - you have the right to be left in peace. Lots of red flags on your post. However, it’s worth trying to talk to him first, so here are my suggestions:

    If you are working: sorry Mr Loy, this is not a good moment. I’m trying to get work done

    If you are not working, but also not ballsy enough to tell him to go away: sorry, I need to go ( go to the toilet or just pretend to be in a rush)

    If you really want to set up boundaries anytime (recommended): thanks Mr Loy but I’m not interested

    The tone in which you say things has a lot of weight though. If you can sound tired and bored of him, all the better. People who pick and harrass others typically go after people who react either hysterically or annoyed, or also after people who appear coy or shy and polite. I hope this helps.







  • No, all I can say is when I was a child my mother and occasionally grandmother had that effect. It started to get less effective during my teens and it’s certainly no longer a thing anymore. As for other sources that truly nurture AND make me feel safe, no, I can’t think of a single one. I’ve had plenty of people taking nurturing and protective roles in my life but I wouldn’t say their effect was of full restoration and complete safety. Same goes for places. Something is always amiss or not enough for full recharge and safety.




  • Araucaria species. Because of their shape. They are the best.

    I also really really like Magnolia trees, the large grandiflora ones ( those with the large glossy leaves and white flowers). I mean the flowers are amazing, but the way their trunks develop in very large specimens is so good, those semi buttressed roots and aerial offshoots hanging down are crazy amazing.

    So yeah, araucarias and magnolias.