I think goes from obsession to possesion maybe, ur kinda tied to a phone for a lot of services these days and 5 years is at least more reasonable than every year or 2

Pawb is seemingly federated with most chill instances and has open reg if you want a furry home server

Try discord servers for books, my best friend found his partner on one and a couple years later he moved countrys to live with her! Try reading groups or other such things and you’ll surely find people you have something in common with, and who knows where those relationships will lead you