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  • I don’t agree with everything the guy above you said, but my circumstances are very similar to his.

    I have friends, but they don’t know anyone they can introduce me to.

    Sports are off the table due to both health problems and a lack of interest (do you really want group activities to be full of disinterested guys just there to chat up chicks?), never mind that they’re all heavily male-dominated around here.

    Local councils put on events, but they are either for children, for mothers, or for seniors.

    Everything has been turned into a product to be sold to you, almost every event costs money, and when you do pony up the events are somewhere between borderline scams and actual scams.

    This is a recurring issue with this subject. Someone offers advice, someone points out why that advice isn’t very applicable, and the first person makes no attempt to “adapt and overcome” themselves and either a) offer better advice, or b) admit that they don’t have any better suggestions.







  • Figuring out matrix was annoying for me. I had to figure out which client program to use, I had to navigate the less-than-ideal way of joining servers, and there was a difficulty curve for understanding the program’s features and how to use it. It wasn’t impossible, but it took effort

    I went through the same effort and all I got for my troubles was a few dead chatrooms where what little discussion exists is purely about distros.

    The barrier to entry filtered out everyone else.



  • Discord is moderating private chats PC Gamer

    This annoys me, not because discord is doing anything wrong, there needs to be a way to report spam and abuse, but because users can potentially abuse the feature. My hope is that reported DMs past a certain age are automatically ignored.

    Discord moderating policy is becoming more ideological and political. TechCrunch

    This one is just inevitable due to all the kids on it. Discord doesn’t want media and govts breathing down its neck after kids are bullied into killing themselves via the platform.

    Where it gets annoying is one of the bigger public servers in Oz is straight-up a neo-nazi recruitment vector, and no amount of reporting seems to get anything done about it.


  • I can’t be sure it’s morally acceptable to bring a new life into the world just to struggle until death.

    That has been true for just about everyone throughout history.

    the game changes yet again and you get knocked back down to the peg you started on.

    People in the developed world not having kids is part of how they ‘win’ the game.

    The reason boomers were able to demand so much is because, as the name implies, they’re a big fucking cohort. They were politically influential from the time they could vote. Keeping birthrates depressed and shipping in cheap foreign labour is how those with power keep everyone else powerless.

    It’s a weird situation, but the way to improve living standards for future generations is to… have future generations. Even if you don’t feel like you can entirely support them now.





  • I hope they continue to resist and eventually cause a larger change for the better across the region.

    Except that’s not what’s happening if you read the article, on either count.

    Women aren’t resisting childbirth as an act of rebellion or as an exercise of their rights, there’s just too many competing pressures in their lives to table in having kids. Coupled with declining rates of attachment and a distraction-based economy, this isn’t a ‘win’ for anyone.

    And population decline is a crisis we don’t know how to deal with. Old people have little economic output, but use up a lot of resources. It means the kids who are still born end up carrying a huge burden paying for and caring for older generations, they end up tax serfs in an aged care-based economy, and if older generations aren’t cared for you end up with human atrocities on a massive scale.

    Most of these comments are problematic. You don’t have to have children, but for most people it has been a pretty consistent and natural inclination. Now a whole generation are convincing themselves they don’t want children when they really just can’t, and rather than holding those responsible to account and improving all our circumstances, they’re treating it as some personal victory.


  • One of the servers I’m in literally has a How to Make Friends pinned post for people who might need it.

    Out of morbid curiosity, could we see it?

    We’ve got basic conflict resolution tactics written into our rules… not that anyone reads them.

    I’ve found that people on local servers tend to be a mix, including other lonely or socially awkward people.

    Give it a few more years and you’ll realise how much deeper that rabbit hole goes. I’m resigned to the fact that discord isn’t even really a gaming platform any more, let alone a social one; most people seem to be trying to use it for scoring drugs or hookups/affairs. Lots of kink stuff, too - it is following the same path as Second Life did. Also goes well beyond lonely and socially awkward; antisocial nutjobs abound.