Get a boyfriend instead. Problem solved. 🤷‍♂️

God, that looks fucking tasty

Thank you, that’s helpful to know!

Yep, there’s one called syncthing-fork that’s been around quite a while I think, lemme go grab a link

Edit: https://f-droid.org/packages/com.github.catfriend1.syncthingandroid/ :)

I haven’t followed whether the project has made any comment on the upstream being discontinued, because right now I’m not using it. But if you reading this depend on syncthing, it might be worthwhile to go check, and maybe donate to help them keep it going :)

Can we maybe skip calling people “females”…? 😅

If you meant people who are biologically female since trans women would be more likely to understand male anatomy jokes, “female folks” or “afab folks” would probably feel a bit less like they’re being reduced to their sexual organs, and are being seen more as people, which folks always appreciate :)

Lmao, a work of art. If anyone wants to tell me the context for this gif I’d be super curious to hear it. It looks like some reality show like survivor…

Those are some sweet fuckin pants, I want some

ಠ_ಠ

What in the everliving fuck…

Thats a really good image 😂

Its okay bud, well get you warmed right up- I got the fire going, want a hug? We have hot chocolate?

I don’t presently have one, and when I do it’ll probably be like waiter at waffle-house or something 😅

Why do you ask?

For anyone else who wasn’t familiar with this term and didn’t have the context to understand any of this story:

A pogrom is a violent riot incited with the aim of massacring or expelling an ethnic or religious group, particularly Jews. The term entered the English language from Russian to describe 19th- and 20th-century attacks on Jews in the Russian Empire (mostly within the Pale of Settlement). Retrospectively, similar attacks against Jews which occurred in other times and places also became known as pogroms. Sometimes the word is used to describe publicly sanctioned purgative attacks against non-Jewish groups. The characteristics of a pogrom vary widely, depending on the specific incident, at times leading to, or culminating in, massacres.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pogrom

Are you positive that’s entirely correct? There are definitely disorders who’s definitions are shaped by their impact on others, like Munchausen’s by proxy, but I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist. I could see it being described as a form of impairment to an important area of life to not being able to form healthy non-destructive relationships, and I think impairment is one of the criteria by which a disorder can be defined

I could also just be wrong though, and it’s a fair point regardless. Perhaps “defined by” wasn’t quite the right way to word things

Edit: upon rereading I didn’t actually say it was “defined by”, but the wording is still imperfect. I can only be but so anal about technicalities though; communicating my point is more important

Thank you very much. As someone with a lot of challenges with mental illness myself, it’s something I think about a lot.

I think the important thing is really just that mental illness doesn’t shield you from accountability for how you impact other people, and for a personality disorder that primarily manifests in traits that harm people, that’s a hard thing to reconcile with that person’s merits. Doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t, just that because you are still responsible for potentially hurting people, and have a disorder that makes you very likely to do so, those things will be very hard for people to square.

Another example is paraphilias. Paraphilias can include things like pedophilia, which manifests in a desire to do something that would subject someone to profound amounts of trauma, the likes of which most of us couldn’t even begin to appreciate. Can someone with such a paraphilia be a good person who is kind, and does not harm people in that way? Yes. Can that person be largely a good person in most contexts, but cause people enormous harm as a result of their paraphilia? Also yes.

In some ways we are all people with conditions that affect who we would be otherwise, and in other ways we are all just people, and conditions are used descriptively to communicate the traits that we have.

At the end of the day, the thing that matters is how you treat people. If you cause people harm, it might be more understandable given the context of a personality disorder, but it doesn’t absolve you of any responsibility. And if you don’t, then you haven’t done anything wrong. And I mean that for each moment in time, each interaction. Humans are messy and complicated, and generally ideas like “good person”, “bad person”, are reductive.

I’m sorry you feel trapped or defined by your diagnosis. That can be a painful place to be. I have a close friend with borderline personality disorder who has at times felt similarly. Only thing that matters is whether you’re an asshole. Only thing that ever has mattered, only thing that ever will.

Edit: just want to be very clear- the fact that it will be hard for people to engage with you purely based on your behaviour in a given interaction is not something you deserve. Its the actions and how they affect people that count, even if I can empathize with why it’d be hard for people

I’m a little confused, what do you mean? That because it’s an open source project it’s more polite to request than demand?

Sincere question, I don’t quite follow

Yeah, I had sort of assumed 😅. I appreciate the editor blessing us with more snoot

Ah… Yeah 6e seems like a reasonable ask

That’s awesome! The links to buy seem to be down though which is less than helpful

Why he’s 75% snoot!