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I’m poly; I don’t have a personal definition of cheating in that context. My partner is a grown-up and can do what she wants; I can barely see how that’s even my business, let alone my problem.
But if you pretend to follow a given set of rules, while actually secretly breaking them - that’s pretty much the definition of cheating in any context.
If your partner would be not-OK with some activity, but you want to do it, then you either do it anyway and face the conflict head on, or you don’t do it at all.
Selling nudes specifically - some would care a lot, some would be fine with it, and the only way to know is to ask. But sneaking around because you assume it’d be a dealbreaker if they found out - no bueno. No bueno at all.
This. Cheating isn’t any one specific thing, it’s a breach of trust. If you know your partner wouldn’t like it don’t do it. If you’re not sure, ask. If you don’t want to ask, then yeah it’s probably cheating.
The only opinion that matters here is your partner’s.
Cheating is when you do something that betrays your partners trust.
I couldn’t care less if my partners post nudes, anonymous or otherwise, so it wouldn’t be cheating for me.
Other people feel differently, and so it could be cheating for them.
I also agree.
While I couldn’t care less (it’s their body and bodily autonomy is super important to me), I’d be a little hurt if they didn’t tell me about it.
In that case I’d be more interested in talking to my partner to try and understand why they felt that they couldn’t talk to me about it and needed to keep it a secret.
I don’t think that’s true. Its not cheating if you steal a bunch of money from your partner’s bank account by pretending to fall for a scam and hiding the money in some swiss account.
It’s a fucked up thing to do, but it’s not “cheating on your partner”.
maybe look up the definition of cheating
Nah not cheating but definitely something that should be discussed in a relationship.
Posting nudes is not cheating. Not telling your partner you’re posting nudes is cheating.
I think what’s important here is discussing it with your partner because it is a form of sex work.
That’s absolutely your decision and your right, it’s your body - but your partner should get to choose whether they want to date someone who is doing that.
Having removed metadata and with nothing recognizable in the pic.
Not really relevant, that’s like saying ordinary cheating isn’t cheating if you wear a good disguise.
that’s like saying ordinary cheating isn’t cheating if you wear a good disguise
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Let’s say you wear a teddy bear suit, would that be cheating…?
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Or using a glory hole.
Someone is free to only date people who don’t do office work, but its their job to communicate that requirement and what they’d consider crossing that line. You shouldn’t be expected to consult your partner before filling out some paperwork at work and there shouldn’t be some societal-wide expectation that you would inform them of the work.
When I get deeply emotionally attached to my data analyst, I might care if they’re moonlighting on the side. Sex, work or not, is still an emotional topic for most of the human race and it’s not new knowledge to anyone.
Enough that it would not naturally occur to me that “please do not engage in prostitution while we’re together” needs to be said out loud. I will casually ask if you’re monogamous and if you say yes, that’s how monogamy works.
Even aside from that, yeah, tbh, I would consider it good form to let your partner know you’re considering a new job regardless, just so they generally know what’s going on. If you have to hide it, maybe something is wrong.
I personally would not date someone who is employed by the US military.
If a partner hid that from me, it would be a breach of trust.
If it’s something we previously discussed and agreed on, no. Hell, I might even help if they want.
If it was done in secret, I’m not sure if I’d quite call it cheating but it’s at least a lie of omission: What other secrets are being kept? Why should I keep trusting this person if they aren’t honest with me?
No but if your partner feels the need to hide this from you it’s a good moment for reflection
It’s cheating and the fact that you are asking shows you know it is.
I’d be concerned if my partner hid a job from me.
Given data is irrelevant to the question. Anonymous or not, it depends on what your partner thinks about this. And if you don’t want your partner to know, then you already know the answer.
Whether something, anything, is considered “cheating”, is based on whatever the two people in a relationship agree shall be considered cheating. It’s their relationship, their rules. An oral contract (pun intended).
If you have enough thoughts wondering if it is wrong, it probably is. Communication is key in a relationship. If they are cool with it, then do your thing. If you’re too afraid to tell them then you already know the answer.
This depends entirely on what boundaries you have set in your relationship(s), and whether the person who is doing the sex work is open about it with the other partner(s)
Example 1: Relationship is established as monogamous, person is open about performing sex work and is not doing things behind their partner’s back/trying to hide it, and both parties are satisfied that it falls within the boundaries they’ve set in their relationship - not cheating!
Example 2: Relationship is established as polyamorous, people involved have several partners and metamours. Person doing the sex work is not open with one or more of their partners about it, tries to hide it or do it behind people’s backs, or does so despite it being outside of the boundaries set with one or more of their partners - cheating!
As with the vast majority of things in this vein, it’s all about the individuals involved.
Whose nudes?
