Yeah no doubt. Not saying there’s no reason to be on the apps in college. I’m just saying there’s less and less opportunity for meeting people in person by chance at social events the older you get, and the more your social life includes people from work, married folks, parents, etc.
College is the densest pool of single people with lots of free time you’ll ever experience bar none.
sure its callled not giving someone a chance, being quick to judge, the apps tend to make the personalities and behaviors we have more obvious because they make it easier and more efficient to express this, but like others have said some of these apps are challenging to use by design, they want to extract money from you, not get you a date
thats why hints are bad, people should be more direct. time is a wasting. In american culture it is actually considered rude to be too direct, which is part of the problem, that mixed with social anxiety and widespread hate and ignorance.
Then you look for the other person at the party standing there back to the wall looking like a deer in headlights and make friends or at least form a D&D group.
Ive told my daughter “Always be nice to the quiet ones and the weird ones. Be nice and be friendly, the extroverts of the world will be fine on their own.”
I mean, if I played PC games (more specifically multiplayer), I could definitely see myself attending LAN party. That’s the only party that actually sounds interesting.
Unless you’re socially awkward and bad at picking up hints.
Yeah no doubt. Not saying there’s no reason to be on the apps in college. I’m just saying there’s less and less opportunity for meeting people in person by chance at social events the older you get, and the more your social life includes people from work, married folks, parents, etc.
College is the densest pool of single people with lots of free time you’ll ever experience bar none.
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sure its callled not giving someone a chance, being quick to judge, the apps tend to make the personalities and behaviors we have more obvious because they make it easier and more efficient to express this, but like others have said some of these apps are challenging to use by design, they want to extract money from you, not get you a date
I mean, that sucks, but it’s not like things are going to get better once you’re outside of the conditions mentioned
thats why hints are bad, people should be more direct. time is a wasting. In american culture it is actually considered rude to be too direct, which is part of the problem, that mixed with social anxiety and widespread hate and ignorance.
Yeah, it really is super difficult to put yourself out there if it’s not something you do regularly.
Then you look for the other person at the party standing there back to the wall looking like a deer in headlights and make friends or at least form a D&D group.
Parties?
You actually don’t get what socially awkward means, do you?
Ive told my daughter “Always be nice to the quiet ones and the weird ones. Be nice and be friendly, the extroverts of the world will be fine on their own.”
You’re a great parent 👍
I am, but I could still go be weird at some parties.
I guess that being laughed at and ridiculed at parties must be very enjoyable in your corner of the world, then.
Uni wasn’t really like that, luckily.
I mean, if I played PC games (more specifically multiplayer), I could definitely see myself attending LAN party. That’s the only party that actually sounds interesting.
Y’all are going to parties?
The only college parties I’ve been to were those with just my friends and ive learned my lesson about dating friends…